My sweet husband has been gone almost a week. He accepted a job in Boston - which is 2500 miles away from our home. This wasn't an easy decision, but the economy has battered us and we felt the opportunity may be just what we need to keep us from financial disaster.
The truth is that we love Arizona. We love the wide, open spaces, the mountains, the desert, and even the heat. We've been here a decade and had no plans to leave. I also had no plans to leave Wisconsin 11 years ago, but things happened and opportunities arose and we found ourselves moving.
It will be nearly impossible to sell our home for what we owe. Phoenix has been hit hard by the mortgage fiasco and housing values have plummeted. Because of this, we talked long and hard about the reality of this job and what it meant to us as a family. We decided that he would go out there while the kids and I stayed here. We have a good support system here, I have great friends, and I have a part-time job that I couldn't easily replace.
This is hard, though. While we aren't a couple that has never spent time apart, we haven't spent more than 2 weeks apart during our marriage. Chances are that he will be able to come home every 4 - 6 weeks for a few days. We hope that after 6 - 9 months things will change and he'll either return to AZ or we'll all move to MA.
It's definitely different around here without him. On a purely selfish note, he always got the kids ready and off to the sitter on the days I taught. I only taught one day last week, but we had to all be ready and out of the house by 6:15. We made it, and the kids were great, but I missed him especially that morning.
I don't know what this experience will teach us, but I'm sure we'll find plenty of lessons along the way. My dear husband is especially homesick this week, and I hope that next week is easier for him. Some sales would help, so I'd appreciate any positive thoughts / prayers you could send his way. This new position is still 100% commission, so it's a risk.