Saturday, April 18, 2009


My sweet husband has been gone almost a week. He accepted a job in Boston - which is 2500 miles away from our home. This wasn't an easy decision, but the economy has battered us and we felt the opportunity may be just what we need to keep us from financial disaster.

The truth is that we love Arizona. We love the wide, open spaces, the mountains, the desert, and even the heat. We've been here a decade and had no plans to leave. I also had no plans to leave Wisconsin 11 years ago, but things happened and opportunities arose and we found ourselves moving.

It will be nearly impossible to sell our home for what we owe. Phoenix has been hit hard by the mortgage fiasco and housing values have plummeted. Because of this, we talked long and hard about the reality of this job and what it meant to us as a family. We decided that he would go out there while the kids and I stayed here. We have a good support system here, I have great friends, and I have a part-time job that I couldn't easily replace.

This is hard, though. While we aren't a couple that has never spent time apart, we haven't spent more than 2 weeks apart during our marriage. Chances are that he will be able to come home every 4 - 6 weeks for a few days. We hope that after 6 - 9 months things will change and he'll either return to AZ or we'll all move to MA.

It's definitely different around here without him. On a purely selfish note, he always got the kids ready and off to the sitter on the days I taught. I only taught one day last week, but we had to all be ready and out of the house by 6:15. We made it, and the kids were great, but I missed him especially that morning.

I don't know what this experience will teach us, but I'm sure we'll find plenty of lessons along the way. My dear husband is especially homesick this week, and I hope that next week is easier for him. Some sales would help, so I'd appreciate any positive thoughts / prayers you could send his way. This new position is still 100% commission, so it's a risk.


  1. I pray that God will bless your marriage during this necessary separation :-)

  2. I am so sorry Mel! I can't even begin to imagine how hard this is for you guys. {{{{HUGS}}}}

  3. Wow. 6 weeks is a long time to be separated. Hang in there, hopefully this experience will be short-term and somehow bring your family closer together. Sending positive thoughts out into the Universe for you and your family!!

  4. Anonymous3:14 PM

    Hi Mel. I did read this post previously and kept you guys in my heart and prayers. I will continue to do so. It reminds me of Rob's grandparents and some of the things they had to do to make ends meet in the early years after they immigrated to Canada from Poland - they were in Western Canada on the plains and homesteaded - his grandfather had to go to Edmonton for work while his grandmother stayed on the farm with the 5 boys and 1 girl...

    Much love and thoughts are with you. I told Rob about this too - and he just shook his head. I know he prays for you too!


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